How to Pose for Photos If You’re Camera Shy Without Feeling Awkward

Most people don’t love being photographed. They freeze up, force a smile, and suddenly feel like they’ve forgotten how to stand naturally. “Where do I put my hands?” is a question I hear at almost every session.

The good news? You don’t need to “pose.” Some of the most beautiful portraits happen when people forget the camera is there. Whether you’re preparing for a family photoshoot in Jersey City, a couples session in Hoboken, or a professional portrait in New York City, here’s how to look natural—without trying too hard.

1. Don’t Pose. Move.

The secret to looking effortless? Do something. Instead of standing stiffly, try:

• Walking slowly toward the camera

• Playing with your jacket, scarf, or hair

• Turning your head as if someone just called your name

• Laughing (even if it’s forced—it’ll turn real)

Bonus Tip: If you’re with someone—your partner, kids, or even a pet—interact with them. Adjust their collar, whisper something funny, or hold their hand. It’s an easy way to create genuine expressions.

2. The “Invisible String” Trick

A simple mental trick: Imagine a tiny invisible string pulling the top of your head upward—not your chin, but the crown of your head. It makes your posture naturally elegant without looking stiff. This works for standing and sitting poses alike.

3. Hands: The Eternal Mystery

Hands can feel like the most awkward part of a photo—where do they go? The trick is giving them a purpose:

• Lightly touch your face (jawline, chin, temple—softly, like a thought)

• Put them in your pockets (casual, effortless)

• Hold onto something—a jacket, sunglasses, your child’s hand if it’s a family session

• Gently adjust your sleeve, necklace, or watch (small, natural movements)

Bonus Tip: If you’re sitting, lightly rest one hand on your knee or thigh—it keeps things natural without looking stiff.

4. The “Look Away” Trick

Not everyone feels comfortable looking straight into the camera. Solution? Look away.

• Off into the distance—like you’re lost in a thought

• At something nearby—the city skyline, your own hands, a detail on your outfit

• Over your shoulder—mysterious, editorial, effortless

Bonus Tip: If you’re doing a couples or family session, don’t be afraid to look at each other instead of the camera. Those in-between moments often create the most beautiful shots.

5. Don’t Hold Your Breath!

People often unintentionally hold their breath when posing, which makes them look stiff. Breathe out slowly through your lips—it softens your expression and makes you look more natural.

6. Think of a Real Emotion

A forced smile looks forced. But when you think about something real—your kids laughing, an inside joke with your partner, a quiet morning in your favorite place—the expression changes. Even if no one else knows what’s behind it, it’s there, and the camera will catch it.

This is why professional photographers talk to you while shooting. It’s not just conversation—it’s drawing out something real.

7. The Photographer’s Job (Not Yours)

The best thing you can do? Let go. A good photographer guides you, directs you, and finds your best angles without making you feel like you’re being “posed.”

Whether it’s a family photoshoot in Jersey City, a couples session in Hoboken, or a natural portrait session in NYC, the goal is always the same: capturing the most authentic, effortless, and honest version of you.

And trust me, that version always looks good.